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"Before these classes, I used to
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Testimonials
“Parenting class changed the way I relate to my son. In
fact, it changed the way I relate to everyone. It
changed everything. I began to see the world in a
completely different way than I had before. The old way,
the "dominant paradigm", has never worked for me, yet it
was the only way I knew how to interact with other
humans. I remained, at my core, a frustrated person
because I was going about the business of life in a
state of "unfulfilled needs" and with a "strategy" that
was not working for who I am inside. After the first
class I felt like my reality had been cracked open and a
new reality has been emerging ever since. Life is still
filled with all the same old problems and struggles (I'm
still just as imperfect as when I walked through the
door) but thanks to what I learned I have the
opportunity to be the parent I always wanted for
myself.”
“I’ve learned to listen more to my five year old with
her needs and wants and to stop doing things that are
not important and focus more on her feelings.”
“I realize what kind of person I was and how I was
living in a negative world. I’ve now learned to talk to
my children in a positive direction and they, as well as
I, are a lot happier. We connect a lot better and I
understand them a lot more. I hope to continue this
positive life.”
“I’ve learned on a deeper level than therapy has ever
provided, how my childhood affects my parenting and how
the dominant paradigm no longer works for me as a
parent. Today I pause, I am less reactive toward my
children’s outbursts. I am not taking their behavior
personally. I am observing them rather than judging
them.”
“It’s all about my child, but for my kid to grow, I have
to grow first.”
“I’ve learned that to connect emotionally with my son, I
have to connect with myself first. When I am connected
internally, I can focus on what my son is feeling, not
on how he is behaving. This is a very profound shift for
me as I was always taught to behave a certain way. Now
when my toddler has what is commonly called a “tantrum”,
I refer to it as an emotional surge. I think, what can I
do to help him, to be his emotional coach, rather than
how can I get him to stop.”
“I’m learning to be more patient. This class has been an
amazing eye opener to me of how I was raised and how my
husband was raised. Thank you for this class.”
“I had very little patience with my four-year old son.
He triggered me and I always reacted because I felt so
personally attacked. I became upset and he became more
upset. I’m seeing a lot of improvement in me and better
connection with my son. I strive to have more patience,
empathy and understanding with him. Those are exactly
the traits that I hope he would have as an adult.”
"The Parenting Class has helped me shift my perspective
- seeing my child's needs in a new light. I have been
finding in this philosophy how to be with my child in a
way that fits my ideals. To truly see his needs and find
ways to get them met. Also finding ways to center myself
so I'm not reacting from my own issues. Staying centered
in my heart can be very difficult but is a beautiful way
to be in any relationship."
"The non-violent parenting philosophy helps me to
treasure and revel in the work of parenting and see it
as far more important than anything I've ever done in a
30 year "career".
"I've learned that under the surface of my two-year-old's
aggressive outbursts are unmet needs. These require my
observation and caring to discover what they are instead
of an aggressive disciplinarian approach, which only
alienates my child further and adds to his frustration."
"As a parent, the non-violent parenting philosophy has
created a lifestyle for my daughter and I that we live
and breathe, and often need to defend. As a teacher I am
working on creating non-violent ways in the public
schools."
"The class has helped me improve my relationship with my
16 year old step daughter. I have a better understanding
of the importance of empathy. This has helped me
understand that when she ignores me it is often because
of her own personal feelings of distress - whether about
something at school or problems with her friends. I have
become less reactive and angry and am able to be more
supportive and caring and patient."
"It helps me to have a reference point of a calmer,
kinder way to relate to my children. Even though it can
be very difficult in the day-to-day activities, and the
challenges they present, at least I have some tools and
ideas to help me do better. I definitely feel that
attending these classes has made an enormous difference
in my ability to be the kind of parent I would like to
be. The Center's philosophy validates my most honest and
true ideas of how children should be treated, and it has
provided me with ways to implement these ideas."
"It has showed me to respect my child's feelings and
needs. I have learned to show empathy for my child's
needs. I have showed more patience to my son."
"First of all I would like to thank you for allowing me
to be a part of such a life changing experience. I feel
my life has changed profoundly. It has affected all my
relationships for the better - with my parents, brother,
grandmother and friends. It has taught me not to be in a
power struggle with the world and all my relationships
but rather to understand the underlying need of people
to be loved. This class is so necessary. We teach our
kids about math, science and history but not about the
most meaningful thing in life, which is making
connections in our relationships. I feel that this class
has saved me many years of unnecessary conflict and
hurt.” |
